Monday, November 4, 2013

A BIG Birthday "Limbo", Arabian Nights, and...Goats?

Maliana ~

On Tuesday, as Daddy and I firmed up some of Lao Lao's birthday surprise for later in the week, you excitedly came in the bathroom with me as I brushed my teeth and asked, in all sincerity, "So, Mama...what's the plan?" Your eyes were all lit up and the curious and hopeful look on your face was so priceless. You were so excited to be a part of making Lao Lao's birthday memorable. You said, "I know all about the limbo..." (aka limo that Daddy and I are booking to surprise Lao Lao after dinner on Friday) and also came up with all kinds of other sweet ideas to help out. I think the sweetest thing of all though is your thoughtfulness for someone else. Love that about you!

Wednesday was filled with much of the usual until just before bed time when your sore teeth that were bothering you so much as you tried to eat dinner gave way to an actual wiggly tooth ~ your first ever legitimately wiggly tooth! You leaped onto the bed and wanted to show me right now! It was very exciting and you are pretty stoked to have your "grown up" teeth finally on their way.
"this one, right here!"
(the gap between your teeth is getting
bigger because your adult tooth is
pushing them apart!)
Abby was not quite as excited as you were about wiggly teeth
After the wiggly tooth excitement, more was in store for us as Thursday was Halloween! I have been so nervous about this day for a while because it was the day of your kindergarten fall party that I had coordinated for your class. I unwittingly volunteered for it (per the PTA), but I am happy that I did and even happier to report that the party went off without a hitch. To my surprise, everyone really liked the candy corn bingo and it was priceless to listen to all of your reactions when you came back from the costume parade through the school to see your room with all of the place-settings filled with treats. At one point, you came over to me (out of the blue) and gave me a hug saying, "Mommy, I love you" ~ so sweet. I loved being able to help out and was thoroughly impressed with how nice both the parents and all of the children are. Mrs. Fitzpatrick said you have a really nice class, which is so good to know. One of the other moms even showed me a video on her phone that she had taken where her son was being dropped off at school and you came running up to him, yelling his name, and saying, "Alex...what's up?!" It was so cute.
It was so wet and rainy by the time we left the school that day we had to race to the car (laughing as we ran) and still ended up getting pretty drenched. When we arrived home, I thanked you for letting me help with the party because I had had so much fun. I then asked if I could help with another party and you told me, "Sure, anytime!" I feel very fortunate that I can participate like this...for as stressed as I can get at times, I try not to take a single second of it for granted.

Fast forward to later Halloween night, you were so tired that all you wanted to do was pass out candy (and were pretty darn excited about it, too!) The way that you hung out by our front door and waited with the bowl of candy, then how you ever so sweetly handed out each piece to the beggars who came by was so cute.
anxiously waiting for your next customer
We did this for a while until Daddy and Lao Lao came over and then we turned out all of our lights and headed over to Blake's mom's house to see Allie, Blake, his mom Cheryl, and the tons and tons of kids they had there. It was fun and you actually decided to venture out into the rain to get your own candy once you saw the kids come back with their hauls. The weather wasn't nearly as bad as all of the forecasters kept saying it would be, but it was drizzling just enough to prevent us from wanting to stay out much more than a half hour. Luckily, you got a pretty decent amount of sweets for such a little time spent begging. It was really nice to meet and get to know the various family members of Blake's at this party and two of them, Katelynn and Zachary, actually go to your school so it was good for you to meet a couple kids who could be familiar faces someday in the halls there.
you were so sweet to all of the little kids
Allie and Blake



playing Legos with Zachary and Katelynn
Recovering from Halloween and needing to get some other stuff done, I decided to take Friday off and after getting some much needed sleep, I took you to the "bowling area" as you call it (aka the bowling alley) for a fun game and some lunch before heading to school. Out of all the things we could do, you chose to go bowling and were so squirrely all morning. It was hilarious! When we walked in, there was a rather crotchety and less than enthused gentleman working the counter. He was initially rather prickly but I marveled at how your kindness and silliness was able to melt his grouchy mood. By the time we had left, he had not only stopped by our table to chat with you as we ate lunch but he had also given us extra tokens to play the arcade games. It's so interesting to me how you are able to lift people out of whatever funk they are in just by being you...your charisma is contagious.

Here you are showing off some of your enthusiasm at the alley....

After bowling, I dropped you off for kindergarten where I noticed how picturesque it looked as you walked to the front door of the school under your gigantic backpack, with the deep red and gold colors of autumn above you on the trees along the walkway. You turned to call to me and wave goodbye as you walked up to the door and a part of me wished I could do this every day. There are definitely times where I ponder my choice to be a working mommy. Then again, the fact that I am a working mommy probably helps me notice and take pause when encountering these simple but special moments all the more.

When I came to pick you up, we played for a while on the kindergarten playground that was bathed in a beautiful golden color from the surrounding oak and sycamore trees. It was spectacular ~ the epitome of fall!
That night we had an early birthday celebration for Lao Lao's 60th! Aunt Tina, Audrey Ayi, and I took Lao Lao to a fancy dinner and then home for a couple more surprises. First, you and Daddy had decorated the house and bought a special birthday cookie and card for her. You were so excited to show it all to her!
your idea to put the streamers like this so that Lao Lao
could bust through them like you had to on your
birthday...so funny.
cookie cake that Daddy had to write on himself!
we all loved your card and marveled at your
printing...also giggling at the "I Love
Mali" part...which I think was
meant to read "I Love You.
Mali" ~ so sweet!
Then we surprised Lao Lao again with a limo and champagne and just the big girls went out for a drive around town (sorry, Monkey Buns). We were going to take you and Daddy out too but it was very difficult to figure out how to get a car seat for the limo and deal with all that went into that, so instead the driver let you take a quick spin around our block before the big girls headed out for a couple hours. That seemed to help make it a little easier. You seemed appeased as you hopped out of the limo and waved to us as we drove away. Evidently you tried so hard to stay up and wait for us to come home at 11:30 but fell asleep in the middle of the living room just before we pulled up.

your 1st ride in a limo!!
*almost* made it!
Saturday you got to spend some more time with Lao Lao on a date at Easton for some Melting Pot and shopping. Since it is her birthday weekend, she brought over some pictures of herself as a baby and some other memorabilia that you were interested in seeing. I personally couldn't believe this little gem of a hospital bill...
5 days for a whopping $103.18!! wowsers!!
you asked Lao Lao to draw a picture of herself with
her self-described "tv head" as a baby...then
you wanted to draw pictures of yourself
as well as me with "tv heads" (ha)
while you were on your date, Daddy and I went to watch
Uncle Blaize in his high school production of Arabian
Nights...he did really well and Daddy and I were
so proud of him ~ doesn't he look funny
with a beard?!? we promise we'll
bring you next time!
When we got home, Lao Lao headed off on her way, but not before noticing that you had carefully and sneakily placed two notes, all sealed with tape, on her purse for her to take home. You instructed her that she was not to read these until she got home. So sweet.

We all then relaxed and snuggled on the couch until bedtime...
...then woke up on Sunday for more relaxation on a lazy morning together that included pancakes and a walk through the woods at Hoover in this gorgeous autumn weather.
Abbers!!
burning bush

writing in the sand along the water
this sign for Daddy was all your idea!! very appropriate
as anyone who knows your daddy can attest!
After our hike we went out to Uncle Kevin, Aunt Beth, and your cousins' house. We got to meet their two brand new kittens and pygmy goats. Along with their chickens, other cats, and lop-eared bunny, it's a regular zoo out there. Lots of fun!
Sammy manhandling holding Butterscotch
you holding Midnight (I was so very impressed
with the gentle touch and tenderness with
which you held each of the kittens
~ you are such a caring soul)
the goats were curious about my phone camera
In our usual fashion, we arrived home just before needing to slide you into bed for the upcoming week. We sure do burn our candle at both ends, but it's definitely worth it to spend time with those we love.

Love,
Mama

Monday, October 28, 2013

Tricks, Treats, and....Teeth??

Maliana ~

Daddy worked nights this week and so he was able to take you to the dentist bright and early on Monday morning. You have had some tooth pain in the front for a little while and we thought it best to get it checked out. Lo and behold...this is what we saw!
wow! look at all those teeth!
Our baby is going to start losing her baby teeth soon! *sniff *tear *sniff

On Tuesday as I packed your lunch, I asked if you wanted to keep my most recent lunch note. When you said yes, you asked, "Mom, do you want to know why I want to save them?"...then you sang this little song to me..."Making something is one way to say...I. Love. You." ~ it was just the sweetest. I have no idea where you heard that, but you are so right.

Wednesday brought a huge first for our family...Daddy and I attended our first parent/teacher conference with your kindergarten teacher, Mrs. Fitzpatrick. We got nervous when we first walked in, but found there was absolutely no need to be. Mrs. Fitzpatrick adores you and evidently, you are doing very well in school. You are like a sponge and listen very well in class, soaking up everything you are being taught. You are a bit chatty, but once reminded you say, "Oh, sorry!" and get back to work. The only other time you need to be reminded to get back to work is when you get distracted by helping classmates when they need it. Mrs. Fitzpatrick said that there is one little girl in particular that has a difficult time interacting with the other children, however you make it a point to reach out to her and encourage her. She said that you do find some of this little girl's antics amusing and giggle sometimes, giving the teacher a shrug and a "What are you gonna do?" look, before attempting to steer your little friend in the right direction. Mrs. Fitzpatrick made a point to share how you are so very sensitive with your classmates and she can see you have a lot of empathy for the kids who are teased. I teared up when she told us this. It reminded me of the letter that I read to you before your first day of kindergarten which you can find at the end of this previous blog post. Here is the excerpt from it that most rang out to me again as I sat in this conference with your teacher...

"We do not care if you are the smartest or fastest or coolest or funniest. There will be lots of contests at school, and we don’t care if you win a single one of them. We don’t care if you get straight As. We don’t care if the kids think you’re cute or whether you’re picked first or last for kickball at recess. We don’t care if you are your teacher’s favorite or not. We don’t care if you have the best clothes or most LPS toys or coolest gadgets. We just don’t care.We don’t send you to school to become the best at anything at all. We already love you as much as we possibly could. You do not have to earn our love or pride and you can never lose it.
We send you to school to practice being brave and kind.
Kind people are brave people. Brave is not a feeling that you should wait for. It is a decision. It is a decision that compassion is more important than fear, than fitting in, than following the crowd.
Trust me, baby, it is. It is more important.
Don’t try to be the best this year, honey.
Just be grateful and kind and brave. That’s all you ever need to be.
Take care of those classmates of yours, and your teacher, too. You Belong to Each Other."


Bottom line, baby ~ You are taking the words above to heart. Sewing them permanently to that big beautiful heart and soul of yours. And I couldn't be prouder of you.

Along with all of the wonderful news above, we also learned that you have been asked about the scar on your lip a few times by the other children. Thankfully Mrs. Fitzpatrick encourages your classmates to ask you about it directly, to which you graciously explain everything to them...opening your mouth wide to not only show the scar on the outside but on the inside of your mouth as well. You casually tell them you were just born like that and had surgery to sew it back together. Once you explain it so openly to them, your classmates are completely satisfied with your answers. I am so relieved to hear that you not only have the confidence in yourself to explain it but the verbal ability to do so as well. While there are challenges in your speech, which we are diligently working on with Ms. Katie and now also with Miss Wheeler, Mrs. Fitzpatrick reassured us that any speech delays do not slow you down at all. You talk, and talk, and talk about all sorts of things (even to the point where it gets you in trouble as I mentioned earlier). I am so relieved to hear this, even if it means that I could get a phone call or two from teachers throughout your school years. My fears that perceived differences between you and classmates or your speech delays would get in the way of your social skills were completely unfounded. I am so grateful, but also in awe. Your spirit is indomitable. I am so inspired by you...every day. You amaze me.

All around, it was such a wonderful first ever parent/teacher conference. Daddy and I are so incredibly proud of you. You have no idea...

Once home...the surprises just kept coming as a big package showed up for you in the mail, from none other than Jo (aka Yo Yo) in Colorado! It was a super fun Halloween package with a special card, candy, toys, and a super cool Toy Story game rug. Daddy and I both remarked that the mailman probably got a chuckle as the package was addressed to "Mali (the Great) Wilkinson", ha ha.
it's addressed to "Mali (the Great) Wilkinson"
And one last final surprise before bed that night...as I got into your backpack, I noticed your kindergarten pictures arrived! Check them out ~ adorable!
woot! woot! so cute!
The next morning, I got an email from your school with this picture...evidently, Daddy brought a paper bag and shared the "magic marble" trick with your entire class and teachers. To say they loved it is an understatement, and later when I picked you up, your teacher said you told her, "My dad is so cool!" Yep, kiddo...we are very lucky to have a daddy that does fun and spontaneous stuff like this!
showing everyone the magic marble
With my packing your lunches now, you are creating your own combinations of food items to snack on and this is your latest combination...your own "salty caramel" invention...Pringles and caramel sauce. Yum??
clever concoction
It's been cooling off in a big way this week and so you have pulled out your mittens for the winter. You love them and refer to them as your "Hot Wheels" mittens since they have a big red flame on them, even wearing them during your entire speech session on Friday morning! That night, Daddy, you and I all drove out to Granville on a spontaneous pre-Halloween trip to see the haunted Buxton Inn and have dinner (or just a sundae in your case) and look around the inn. You, once again, wore your mittens for almost the entire meal until your sundae arrived. (What is it with these mittens?!)


you were not appreciating my spooky noises
or sharing of ghost stories...
On the way home you used my phone to watch some videos and cracked Daddy and me up with your latest Mali-ism. You got frustrated by the phone's buffering and exclaimed, "Hurry up, ya buffalo!" Ha.

We had mandarin class on Saturday morning, then home to work on your homework, and later that night we headed over to the Neuhausel's to check out their new house and of course, play!! It was so nice to spend time with this lovely family and as usual, so much fun to see you kids running around, listening to you squealing and laughing, and enjoying all of the simple stuff kids enjoy. I feel very fortunate to have met these people...once again, thank you adoption!
getting your crafts on with Mia and Freddy
quiet time with Mia

but not for long...here comes Freddy!
Sunday morning Daddy slept in while you and I hung out, listened to Katy Perry's Roar (a lot) and made some special spider deviled eggs for Halloween. Yum!

Click here for a video of your Roar! performance.


I don't know if you could catch it in the video above, but my favorite quote from Sunday morning...  Mali: "I like lions; I like tigers; I like sharks; I like bears and I like T-rexes. I like them all...I just like teeth!"

the spooky black olive spider deviled eggs!
After that, we headed off to see Aunt Lindsey and (soon to be Uncle) Jeff, Cate, and Ellie at a Halloween event, dragging your crazy cousins and Memaw along with us. It was a really fun time and so good to see everyone again. We headed home where you and your cousins made pizzas and you took a bath with your youngest and equally grungy cousin, Sammy. Man, was that bath water dirty when you girls emerged all squeaky clean! Ha.
going to gather some tre!


a prelude to the big night of treats later this week

chocolate...mmmm

we'll take any opportunity to wear our capes!

Daddy is definitely not afraid to
express himself

Aunt Lindsey and (soon to be Uncle) Jeff
(minus Cate and Ellie...we'll get them
in the pic next time!!)

a little help with the monkey bars



cousins

"shaving"

making pizzas
Getting to see all of these people today made us realize that we desperately need to make more time to see each and every one of them much, much more often. 

Love,
Mama