Monday, July 8, 2013

Doo Dah, 4th of July, and Family Day!!

Maliana ~

This week started with some minor frustrations, and then added a few more, but by the end it was all good. Because, as our friend Papa Joe (Shaver) says...Life Is Good! But starting at the beginning, the biggest blow was having the 2nd of our cars break down while Daddy was on his way to the gym. So not only has my car been at the mechanic for over 2 months now, but Daddy's spare car's clutch went out too. We are down to just one semi-working car for our family (the Jeep, which has now earned the nickname Chewbacca, Chewie for short, since it makes a funny gurgling noise when you hit the gas). We're down on our luck right now for sure. Fortunately, Memaw and Papaw stepped in and are allowing us to use one of their cars until we get things back up and running again. The spare car, Daddy's beloved '95 Corolla, appears to be on its way to Automotive Heaven. The repair is going to cost about as much as it's worth, which means it's just not worth it. Needless to say, Daddy is heartbroken. I know...I know...there are much worse Earth-shattering things that could happen to our family...but dealing with all of this stuff is just annoying in a big way. I told Daddy we're just going to sell all of our cars and buy Segways to zoom around town on...I'm sure you'd love that! Ha.

A bright spot, in the middle of all this, involved an evening where your friends came over and you all worked very diligently on completely trashing your room and playroom (as kids often do when they're having fun). In spite of us telling everyone that they needed to help pick up before leaving, everyone went home and we could barely walk through your rooms. As I proceeded to help you clean everything up, (while frustratedly muttering under my breath, I might add), we brainstormed about solutions so this would not happen in the future. You could definitely tell I was mad. After all was said and done, we had put everything (mostly) back in its place, you came out and crawled into my lap on the couch. You looked up at me and said, "Mommy, I still love you, even when you're mad." Just like I say to you when you've just thrown a huge tantrum. It took me by surprise to hear those words come out of your mouth. Wow! Kids really do listen. And I'm so glad that while, yes, you are picking up a lot of my other bad habits...you also are picking up some of the good stuff along the way too.

Tuesday night was some good summer fun with outdoor movies at Easton (even if we didn't last the entire movie!)
reading an American Girl catalog with your bud, Brooklyn
(I think my wallet is crying out, NO! already)

Lao Lao always makes time to join us!

gigantic box of Goldfish snacks and ready for the movie to start!

look who came and surprised us ~ Daddy!
(of course, you are clearly into the movie here,
no time for pictures!)
gorgeous night and I loved the twinkling lights on the trees
Headed to Uncle Pat and Aunt Connie's for fireworks on the 3rd...a warm-up for the 4th. For some reason, you were a bit clingy and preferred hanging out with the adults that night. I think you were feeling tired and a little shy because there were some kids you didn't know. You definitely perked up when we started catching fireflies and by then it was almost time for Reynoldsburg's show which we always have a perfect view of from their side yard. I didn't get many pictures but it was a fun group of people and always gobs(!) of cute doggies at these gatherings.
with our cousin Kelly and Jack

watching the fireworks and sharing your seat with Sammy
On the 4th we did our usual Doo Dah thing with Lao Lao and Uncle Flint, but this year we had an even bigger group as Flint's girlfriend Monica (or as you call her "my friend" or simply "Mon") came with us, as well as our neighbors (Mark, Jenny, Natalia, Roman...and Mark's parents too) met us down there. It was overcast with some sparse sprinkles. Perfect parade weather if you ask me. The parade was silly and irreverent, with tons of inappropriate humor about current events, just like we like it!

Uncle Flint and Monica

Mark and Jenny




this was actually the beginning of the parade


the Marching Fidels...a staple of any Doo Dah






When we got home, you took a nap and then I continued to rest while you got up and Daddy took you bowling. He is so happy to have not only a fishing, but a bowling buddy too. You told me you were going to use the 8 pound ball, get a million points and beat Daddy as you swaggered out the door.  So cute.

After that, we ended the night watching fireworks in Westerville. We made it just in time to plop down with the Szwabinsky's and enjoy the show. It was a great seat where we were close enough to actually feel the "booms!" reverberate in your chest...you spent most of the show with your hands over your ears, but there were no tears and we all enjoyed the beautiful night sky.

Friday was thankfully a short day at school and work, and after a long nap at home for you (and Daddy), we headed to our friends' (Pam and Brian's) house for a cookout. You played with the kids, taking turns hitting a ball with a bat (showing us your incredible batting prowess!), we lit Chinese floating lanterns and then (the grown ups) drove RC race cars with glow sticks strapped to them crazily down the street like a bunch of kids ourselves while the actual kids chased them. We got to meet some really nice new people and spend time with old friends too. I've actually been friends with Pam since about the 4th grade but lost touch and then was reunited with her at a surprise birthday party as adults (Daddy tracked her down years ago as a huge surprise for me). Even though we don't see each other a ton, it's nice to have someone in my life that I do share so much history and with whom I can pick back up again at any point, just like that. I sure hope you have friends like this when you get "old" like me.
the men of the party improvised roasting marshmallows...
they used a blowtorch!

mmm...s'mores with Jack!

a little baseball in the backyard...your
stance was really good!

showing me your muscles

lighting the Chinese floating lantern
(at least the guys agreed to NOT use
the blowtorch for this! ha)
Saturday was a big day for our family ~ the fourth anniversary of the day we met you in China! Here was how I shared it with Facebook world:
Four years ago today Shawn Wilkinson and I met a tiny, scared little girl in a big, loud room in Guangzhou, China. In this picture, she was finally calming down once we started singing "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star" to her and realizing perhaps that these strange and funny looking people might not be so bad :) What a long way we have all come, both literally and figuratively. Maliana has completed our little family so perfectly and I am so thankful for that red thread that brought us all together..."A Chinese proverb states that an invisible red thread connects those destined to meet, despite the time, the place, despite the circumstances. The thread can be tightened or tangled, but never be broken."
We celebrated by going to the zoo and then bowling, unfortunately it was too rainy to pack in go-karts too. (Boo!) Anyway, Lao Lao came and met us at the zoo and we had fun with two of our favorites, the stingrays and Dinosaur Island! We left just in time for the rain to start and headed straight to the bowling alley. You have been so hooked on hitting the lanes lately!
you and Grouchy the tortoise

helping Daddy feed the stingrays

they loved to splash you!

that is my "completely wigged out" face as I
tried to feed some of the stingrays

if the fish are good enough for the stingrays,
we thought we'd try some too!

this reminds me of being in China with you and
everyone using the umbrellas to shade
them from the hot sun...umbrellas
were everywhere there!

showing Lao Lao the baby dino hatchlings

Happy Family Day 2013!

it was almost an hour long wait for the boat ride...we
had to find ways to amuse ourselves!


here we go! Dinosaur Island boat ride!
T Rex grand finale!

aww, man!!

better luck next time!

silly Daddy!

you discovered a new way to cool off hot pizza...
the vent from the ball return!

Mommy looks a bit dangerous on the lanes...
look out below!!
"Mom! I got a stripe!" ..."You mean a strike?" ... "No! A stripe!"
(If you look at the scoring, I guess it does make more sense)
 
We were so pooped by the time we got home. We had originally asked you to pick a special restaurant that we could go out to for dinner...anywhere you wanted...preferably someplace with real menus and fancy desserts...and you picked Taco Bell. Ha. We were so tired that we didn't even feel like getting dressed up enough to go to Taco Bell...so we ended up relaxing at home, ordering Chinese in for dinner, and just enjoying being a family. After all, that's what the entire day was about anyway!

Sunday was a totally (and much needed) lazy day...we were all burned out from all the activity of this holiday and celebratory week and so spent the day doing small errands and hanging out around the house. You and Daddy had breakfast with Memaw and Papaw while I drove some food over to Uncle Johnny's house, you helped Daddy wash his jeep, I worked on putting together some pictures for your upcoming family day DVD, and then we hung out and talked to Mark and Jenny outside while Roman and Natalia entertained you (aka teased and chase you mercilessly)...and you LOVED it. So nice to live right next door to people who feel like family. Our neighbors are the best!

As I gave you a bath on Sunday night, you were relaxing while you let the water hit your back and said, "Ahh, this is the life!" While I giggled at your choice of phrasing, I also couldn't agree with you more. It most certainly is "the life"...the very good life.

Love,
Mama

Monday, July 1, 2013

The Dentist, Ayi's Birthday, a Quinceanera and Then Some

Maliana ~

Started the week with an interesting conversation. You informed me that you now want to be a mommy, but you still don't want to have kids. I was curious about this and so asked you what a mommy does and you replied that mommies help you when you are hurt, help you when you don't know how to do things, and help you make things. We then talked about the different people in our lives who don't have kids of their own but are really, really good mommies, (both of us agreeing that Audrey Ayi is an excellent "mommy without kids"!) Eventually we rounded out our conversation with your declaration of, "I don't want kids. I think I just want a baby from China!" adding to this, "I want a baby like me!" Of course, I had to chime in that that sounded like an excellent idea and a baby like you would be perfect and is the absolute BEST kind of baby in the world, if you ask me. Ha. (I love these surprising little conversations we have on the way home from school ~ man, you are one cool kid!)

Evidently you also had a "paint your own ceramics" studio come to your school last week and on Tuesday we got to take home your creation. You were so proud, unwrapping it and then saying, "It's for you Mom, because you like rainbows and penguins!" Ha...well, OK then! Thank you honey!
rainbow penguin!
And one more funny for your Tuesday that I just couldn't resist sharing on Facebook:
~ So Shawn and I are catching up on our days as he tells me he had forgotten a toy for Mali's 'share day' this morning and evidently saved the day by fashioning a drum from an empty plastic Folgers container that was in the car. It was a hit and as I was congratulating him on his creative on-the-fly thinking, he added (in all seriousness), "Yeah, it was either that or I give her my Leatherman tool" .....(yeah, remind me never to let Daddy forget a 'share day' toy again. I really don't want to get 'that' call from school just yet ~ yikes! :)

Bi-annual dental appointment on hump day this week. You were nervous and highly dramatic (whimpering as you lay perfectly still in the chair), but we made it through the entire exam, x-rays and all. You did great! So proud of you for being so brave!
checking out your x-rays with the dental
assistant and the dentist

shirt from the dentist after a great check up!
You requested Red Robin for dinner and of course I had to grant that small wish. Nothing like a girls' date to brighten both of our days. At dinner we talked about all kinds of stuff, with you feigning sadness at one point because you only had two scars and I had more. See, you got your first strawberry on your knee a couple days ago while walking on the trail with Lao Lao (being such a big girl and not even crying even though it was a doozy! So glad Lao Lao was there and not me...I likely would have panicked but Lao Lao got you excited to use a flashlight to look at all of the oozing fluids when you got home. Can you tell Lao Lao is a 3 kid veteran of bumps and scrapes?) and while you shared that you were so proud of your injury because it reminded you that you are in the "Cool Scar Club", you said you wanted another strawberry. I had to reassure you that you will have plenty of time to accumulate scars during your lifetime...be patient. (I can't believe we had this conversation - who knew the idea of the "Cool Scar Club" would be so...well, cool?!)
modeling the bandaid over your strawberry
We stopped at Target on the way home and I just had to share this status on Facebook:
~ Target shopping is much more enjoyable (for everyone involved) when there's a 5 year old in your cart singing "Who Let the Dogs Out?!...Who?! Who?! Who?! Who?!" (completely off beat and off key, I might add)...just thought I'd let y'all know. Carry on :)

Thursday night you and I decorated the guitar cake we had baked on Wednesday before bed. You had wanted to make a purple guitar shaped cake with pink icing and decorate it for Audrey Ayi's birthday on Friday. As usual, I got all (unnecessarily) stressed doing something that I was basically trying to "wing" (sorry about my uptight streak sometimes...it's a sickness really), but by the end we both were enjoying it and it turned out great! (Man, was this a reminder that I need to learn to be (a little ok, a lot) less 'type A' during new projects. I could learn a thing or two from you kiddo and would probably have a lot more fun from the start!)

After finishing the cake, Daddy took you on a fishing date and you told me you were going to catch another 20 foot long fish! (Ha...telling "it was THIS big" fishing stories before you've even gone fishing!) Evidently, you did catch a big fish, all. by. yourself.!!! Way to go Monkeyfish!! Daddy also had a new Mali-ism for the list too...you kept referring to algae as allergy, as in, "Hey Dad, there's allergy all over my hook!" Ha. Love your mis-speaks...they're the best!
Friday was Audrey Ayi's birthday and so after we were all done with school and work, we took Audrey to our house briefly to present her with her special cake and then whisked her off to the zoo for some fun with the stingrays and on Dinosaur Island! It had just rained so we nearly had the entire zoo to ourselves...perfect time to be there in our opinion!
Audrey loved her cake!


getting ready to touch a sting ray!

they are so soft

you with a brachiosaurus

captioned from Facebook:
Dinosaur Island Boat Ride! 
(a little sad that Mali is old enough now to not
believe me when I tell her that usually only one
kid per boat gets eaten by dinosaurs)

We stopped home briefly, picked up Daddy, and then it was off again to the Bowling Palace with Audrey and some of her friends. This was the first time you got to bowl consistently and while I pooped out after one game, you (and Daddy) ended up bowling four entire games all on your own because you were having SO much fun! You even got two strikes in a row and accidentally bowled one of Daddy's balls but picked up a spare during his game where he bowled a 246 ~ What the heck?! Nice Mali, very nice!! Daddy and I sat back and just watched you excitedly interacting with everyone and really enjoyed your exuberant reactions to the whole experience whether you were tickled about something you'd just done or were cheering on another one of our group. You even asked Audrey if she would take you bowling again the next day...who knew you'd be so hooked? Ha.
we all go bowling but you are the one who ends
up running into a friend at the bowling alley!
so excited to see Joshie!

Daddy joked that you could go to the bathroom
and get a new beer in the time it took your
ball to make it all the way to the pins!
As for the weekend we headed to Fu Group for a play date and socializing among us parents. You kids had so much fun not only on the playground, but most of all walking around on the rocks in the creek. No crawdads were found, but you all got wet and muddy! I really wish I would have brought my good camera because I forgot how funny all of you kids are. I just love this group of kids and adults alike!
Fu fun!
Also, here are some funny conversations among our family from Saturday too:

On the way to our Fu Group ~~
(Mali *smiling and squealing from the backseat*)
Mali: I can't wait for tomorrow!
Me: Really? What's tomorrow?
Mali: (pause) I don't know...what are we doing?! 
(now that is a kid who just loves life)


On the way home from our Fu Group ~~
Mali: When I grow up, can I still live with you?
Mama: Sure, but I don't think you'll want to once you're all grown up.
Mali: Yes, I will. I love you!
Mama: We love you too and you are always welcome but...
Daddy: If I had it my way, you would get married and you and your husband would live with us!
Mali: I don't need to get married.
Mama: Oh yeah? Really?
Mali: Yeah, I don't need to get married. I already have a lot of rings! 
(Ha. I love this kid!)

Saturday evening we attended our first ever Quinceanera for an old work friend's daughter...here's my Facebook status while there:
~ sitting at our first Quinceanera and it is all very fancy and beautiful, except for the fact that my "dainty" daughter is sitting on my lap "dropping bombs" that could make the toughest man's eyes water...oh my lord child!
this is how you entertained yourself while we waited
the 3 hours before the meal was served!
Sunday was finally a nice, quiet day for us. We took some food over to Johnny and visited in the morning, went to brunch with Memaw and Papaw after that, then came home for an early nap. All three of us needed some sleep after such a busy couple of days It rained for most of Sunday, so it was the perfect day to relax and regroup before another week at school and work. Fortunately, 4th of July is coming soon so we only have about 3 and a half days of actual work ~ yay! While we did get to relax, there is inevitably always some chaos going down among all of you kids. Case in point...see below!
so a chicken, a monkey, and a ballerina walk into a bar...
buds
And finally a Facebook post from earlier...you really crack me up kid. 
Mali just told me that she is 38 years old and all dressed up for her first day at school (wearing a backpack, hat, headphones, rosary necklace and mood necklace ~ girlfriend is set!)...(coincidentally I turn 38 this year...I had no idea I had to start school all over again!)

Love,
Mama